How Should I Co-Parent With An Ex-Partner?
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This is probably one of the hardest roles to play ever! And no one gets it right all the time.
Being a good ex is often particularly difficult in the early days of separation when emotions can be running high and life can feel like its in turmoil.
Try to be positive about your ex in front of your children.
In general there are two things to try and implement from the start that will make a huge difference to the potential negative impact on your children:
- Don’t use the kids as a go-between.
- Keep adult conflict away from the kids.
Being a good ex is particularly challenging when that ex is unreliable; it’s hard to see your children been constantly let down and disappointed. That can leave you feeling angry and resentful. It can take great strength to not let your anger show infront of your children.
You will find many articles on this hub that can support you in being a good ex. They are all written by those with a genuine expertise and/or first-hand experience of getting things right, and wrong and offer tips for moving forward when you get stuck.
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