The early days of separation can feel hazy, fast and yet, at the same time painfully slow. The world as you know it is changing, and you have to take your life and your children’s lives into an unfamiliar future. It can feel intimidating knowing what to do first. As with any major crisis, now is the time to lean on the support of your friends and family. Look after your own needs as well as you possibly can so you can look after those who are dependent on you. Remember that even a few days can make a big difference, so keep your focus on the short-term. Take your time, don’t make any big decisions, the long term will look after itself.

We hope you find the articles below a helpful starting point.

  • Recognising And Dealing With Stress

    Moving house, having a child, divorce, bereavement, losing a job… people commonly quote them but it is hard to pin down actually which ones are worst… there seem so many.…So how do we go about recognising and dealing with stress? This Hub is for people likely to have experienced several of these; often within a…

  • Is It Over?

    Deciding to end a relationship is a complex and difficult process and is not arrived at easily. Equally being told your relationship is at an end, is often a shocking and emotionally traumatic event. So is it over? It is common for those leaving and for those being left, to experience similar feelings despite how…

  • The Effects Of An Unhappy Relationship On Children

    Before having children, we dream of a family home full of love, harmony and peace. Sadly, reality often doesn’t work out that way. Two parents, running a busy house together while keeping their own work and social lives going, is a difficult task and one which can lead to high tension and stress. Children can…

  • The Role Of Friends In Separation

    What is the role of friends in separation? Let’s consider this before we get into things. One of the definitions of a friend is someone you can rely on. Before you separate you believe that your friends will remain with you giving unconditional support. It probably never occurred to you that any of your friends…

  • Telling The Children We Are Separating?

    Telling your children about separation or getting a divorce will never be easy, but there are definitely things to consider before you have that particular discussion with them. Here are some of our most important tips on how to tell your children about a divorce or court order: • If possible, talk to your ex-partner…

  • We Are Separating. What Practical Steps I Should Take?

    For many people it can feel overwhelming when a relationship comes to an end. This checklist is not legal advice but a list of practical steps designed to try and make things a little easier and help you during this difficult time. End Of The Relationship Firstly, make a note of the date that you…


Specialisms refer to specific areas of expertise or focus within a particular field or industry. These specialisms denote a level of proficiency and knowledge that goes beyond the general scope of the role these individuals possess advanced skills, deeper understanding, and niche training that allow them to tackle specific complex challenges in separation.


Mediation is where a highly trained person provides you and your ex with assistance to sort things out. You usually meet the mediator on you

Child Inclusive Mediation

A child-inclusive mediator (CIM) is a specially trained mediator talks and listens to your children. Usually, but not always, the child incl

Round Table

A Round Table meeting is where lawyers and you feel it’s a good idea to meet ‘around the table’ or online together. Sometimes this is

Collaborative Practice

Collaborative Practice is where specially trained lawyers work together to help you both sort things out; they will never work against each


If you find that you and your ex simply can’t make a decision on one or all issues, then you need a decision-maker, this is where Arbitrat

Arbitration Mediation

Arb Med (Arbitration-Mediation) What is it? Arb Med is a combination of arbitration and mediation. The order is important. First, you’d

Early Neutral evaluation

What is Early Neutral Evaluation (ENE)? You both agree it would be helpful to ask (or instruct) a neutral person to tell you (in person/Z

Hybrid Mediation

Hybrid (or lawyer assisted, or supported or integrative) mediation What is it? Where one or both of you have your lawyers present in media

Private FDR Judging

What is Private FDR Judging? This is more formal than a straightforward early neutral evaluation and will usually mimic the court procedu

Solicitor Neutral

A solicitor neutral is where a solicitor acts in a neutral and directive way to assist both of you. In the first instance, the solicitor neu


The experts on the hub are listed by their roles and skillsets and location, meaning you can gather a local team of experts around you. Here is a quick run down of what each profession does so can choose the right one at the right time.

Paralegal (or ‘legal assistant’)

The Paralegal's main role is to help qualified lawyers. In the UK, paralegals are considered as non-lawyers, although the term ‘lawyer’

Pensions On Divorce Expert (PODE)

PODEs are specially qualified to provide you with a report to recommend a fair pension share upon divorce/dissolution.


Psychotherapists work with you to help with psychological issues that have been built up throughout your life.


Solicitors represent and defend clients’ legal interests, and can provide advice when dealing with relationship breakdowns.


Family Mediator

Family mediators help you work out arrangements for children and finances following separation.

Clinical Psychologist


Professionally trained Counsellors are there to help people work out their feelings in relation to divorce or separation.

Divorce Consultants / Coaches

Divorce consultants and coaches can help and support you in a variety of ways during your separation.

Family Consultant

The family consultant works with separating couples, trying to help you work on sticking points or areas of disagreement.

Financial Coach

A Finance coach will help you with your financial affairs. They can offer you financial information as it relates to your situation. 

Chartered Financial Planner - IFA


Barristers are regulated specialist legal advisors, known for representing people in court making their case for them.

Legal Executives

Legal executives are regulated by CILEx. Like solicitors, they can be partners in law firms and become judges.